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Cultivating
Fond Memories
ACTION
TO TAKE
Make
it a personal goal to have at least twice as many fond memories
as painful memories. Enhance the good memories. Let the
painful ones wither or see the humor in them. Take stock
of what you are grateful for and cultivate your fond memories
with family and friends.
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Michael Brickey, Ph.D.
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WHY?
Carrying around resentments and bad memories is like carrying
around a bowling ball. It weighs you down, slows you down, and
is downright stupid. Researcher Belle Boone Beard, who studied
thousands of centenarians, found that centenarians have twice
as many fond memories as they do negative memories. It isn't that
they had an easy life. They experienced the Depression, two world
wars, and several other wars. They also dealt with the deaths
of many friends and family members.
Despite their adversities, you would have a hard time finding
any centenarians who see themselves as victims or carry resentments.
Instead they focus on the good things that happen, let the bad
memories wither, and cherish the lessons learned from adversity.
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Defy
Aging Quote:
Resentment is warmed-over anger. Anxiety is warmed-over
fear. Self-pity is nothing more than warmed-over grief.
-Robert Jean Bryant
Defy Aging Humor:
. . . . .One Sunday morning, the pastor noticed seven-year-old
Alex was staring endlessly at the large plaque that hung
in the foyer of the church. The plaque was covered with
names and had small American flags mounted on each side.
"Pastor, what is this?" Alex asked. "Well, son, it's a
memorial to all the young men and women who died in the
service." Little Alex's voice was barely audible when
he asked, "The 9:00 or the 10:30 service?"
. . . . .A Legionnaire visited a bar and lamented to his
comrade, "I can't remember why I came here." "Forget it,"
his comrade said. "That's it," he said, "I came here to
forget."
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Michael
Brickey, Ph.D. is a life coach and a Board Certified psychologist
and serves on the medical staff of several hospitals. He is the
author of Defy Aging: Develop the Mental and Emotional Vitality
to Live Longer, Healthier, and Happier Than You Ever Imagined.
Critically acclaimed by Dr. Bernie Siegel, Betty Friedan, Dr.
Ronald Klatz, and four past presidents of the American Psychological
Association, it is available at many bookstores and through his
web site www.DrBrickey.com.
He coaches people and organizations all over the country by phone
as part of his mission to help people do things they didn't think
they could do. He also speaks on Defying Aging. Please E-mail
Dr. Brickey at BeautyWalk@DrBrickey.com.
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