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Be
the Best You Can Be in 2003
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*A
monthly column devoted to helping women and men
be their best and most confident in any situation.
Topics include dress, body language, attitude and
etiquette.
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Victoria Seitz, PhD
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As
we contemplate the coming year and consider resolutions to make,
-- may I make a suggestion - don't. Don't make resolutions; rather
try to be the best that YOU can be to yourself and to others.
That really doesn't require making a list of goals but considering
these tips to make your life more fulfilling now and in the years
to come.
- Remember that you are just as important as the next person.
Easier said than done. Everyone has some insecurity and hide
it a variety of ways but here is an analogy that might help
you feel better about your role in life. A field is made up
of blades of grass. If each person is a blade of grass, they
play an essential role in creating that field.
- Learn from the past, prepare for the future, but LIVE
IN THE PRESENT. You are missing out on the most important
time of your life if you are always remembering how great yesteryear
was or how wonderful it will be when you. . . The only day you
have is today. Live it.
- No is another opportunity for yes. Think to yourself
that it's their loss and that a better opportunity awaits. Moreover,
always have a "Plan B".
- Trust your instincts. You don't have to be psychic
just listen to your gut. It's says a lot.
- Respect yourself and others will respect you. You
are the one that sets the example. Treat yourself with respect
and kindness and you will get the respect that you have been
wanting from others.
- No one cares about what you know until they know how much
you care. You can have a lot of initials after your name
but no one cares about them until you show sincere interest
in their story.
- Nurture yourself first. This is not being self-centered
- it is necessary to give to yourself so that you can give to
others. Consider this, by always giving to others and not giving
to yourself, the "bottle" becomes empty and you start to feel
angry and resentful. You have to keep that "bottle" filled so
that you have something to give. Try this, everyday do something
good for yourself and something nice for someone else. That
will keep things in balance.
- Do you really want to be DEAD right? A car is approaching
an intersection and they have a stop sign. They don't appear
to be slowing down - but you have the right of way - do you
want to be DEAD right? Remember it takes two to fight and consider
this - do you want to win the battle or the war?
- Learn to manage yourself rather than having to be told what
to do.
- Take responsibility for making things happen. Don't
wait to be discovered - you'll be waiting a long time.
- Make professionalism a lifestyle rather than just a work
style. Treat each person with courtesy and kindness. Return
calls promptly. Be honest and practice integrity in all that
you do.
- Be thankful for the things you have rather than being
upset about what you don't have. Given what transpired in
2001, we can be blessed for the friends and family in our lives
and the simple things that life has to offer.
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Victoria
Seitz, PhD is a professor of Marketing at California State
University, San Bernardino and is author of Your Executive
Image, AdamsMedia, Inc, 2000 and Power Dressing, DonJon
Publishing, 1991. In addition to teaching, Dr. Seitz was a fashion
coordinator for Burdines, Florida and in retail management for
Saks Fifth Avenue, Phoenix, AZ. Clients of Dr. Seitz have included
Abbott Laboratories, Northern Telecom, Texas Instruments, Yellow
Freight Systems, Sally Beauty Company, the United States Armed
Forces, Travellife magazine, YWCA and Accountants Overload, in
addition to law firms, hotels, newspapers, universities, banks,
credit unions, national and local community and professional organizations
nationwide.
To learn more about Dr. Seitz please visit her website at www.cbpa.csusb.edu/vseitz.
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